Communication Skills for Healthy Relationships

Aggressive, passive, manipulative, assertive,

Not speaking up for what you want, and saying 'yes' to things you don't want in order to be liked or to not hurt the other person's feelings.

Taking what you want by threatening or forcing a person to give you something. Or saying 'no' in a way that puts down the other person.

Getting what you want or turning someone down in a dishonest way, or doing something for someone only so you get what you want.

Asking straight for what you want or giving people an honest 'no' to things you don't want. Not using other people, not letting yourself be used either.

People who stand up for their rights without denying others' rights, respect themselves + others, know how to listen + talk,

People who stand up for their rights without regard for others; think of themselves first, at expense of others; dominate others

People who don't assert themselves; give others priority at their own expense; keep their concerns to themselves; apologize profusely

1-State a feeling or fact2- Ask straight for what you want.

1- f you get a no, ask for your second choice ("Well, what about...?")2- If you get another no, accept it gracefully (OK)

OK,OK, maybe another time.Oh well, I'll liveOh, I understand

1- Say something caring2- Refuse ("No, thanks")3- State your decision OR suggest an alternative

1- State a fact or feeling ("I have a right to...")2- Describe what you expect from the person ("please stop...")

1-Get their attention ("Hold it.", "Whoa!")2- Call them on their aggression or manipulation ( "That sounds like a threat", "that's not fair" )3- Repeat what you expect ("I mean it", "I said no") 4- If that doesn't work, leave the situation.

If the other person violates your rights by accident.