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Why do we enter into relationships?
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-affection-support-companionship-predictability-control
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Why are we attracted to particular individuals initially?
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-Proximitiy: attracted to people we're closer to-physical attractiveness: attractive people are rated more likeable, more friendly
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Similarity and attractiveness
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- easier to communicate with people who are similar to you -demographics, attitude, attractiveness, personality
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Matching Hypotheses
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We're not attracted to "most attractive", but to the person who matches our own perception of our own attractiveness
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Factors that influence attraction
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1. Self esteem - recent changes influence your choice of people. i.e recent lowered self esteem can encourage dating2. Anxiety: personal anxiety kindles relationships- ppl needing to be comforted when sharing unpleasant situations is more important to us than other associations with people3. Isolation: loneliness increases attraction; standards for acceptable friends are lowered
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Self disclosure
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Sharing info about the self, can be deep or broad
-inappropriate disclosure: flooded disclosure (this one time at band camp)premature disclosuredisclosure unrelated to topic |
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Social penetration theory
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Based on idea that relationships develope solely thru self-disclosure*stages: orientationExploratory exchange-affective exchange-stable exchange: share everything
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"Onion Theory"
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-from social penetration theory- layers of self revealed in stages, starting with self and leading to the core self- self disclosure "peels back layers" of the onion
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Starcase model of relationships
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* introduced by Knapp + cycle of relationships*stages: Initiation-Experimenting: small talk, learn about similarities-Intensifying: more self disclosure, identifying yourselves as a couple, nicknames, "we" pronouns-Integrating: others treat you as a couple, romance and common property-bonding: public ritual, formal bonding, social + institutional support
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Knapp's stages of "coming apart"
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-differentiating: talk about differences more. disagreements-Circumscribing: less info exchange, topics controlled, less reciprocal- Stagnating: Almost no communication. marking time- Avoiding: avoid face to face, admittting avoiding- Terminating: summary statements, future apart talk
*movement thru stages: motivated by rewards and costs-may not be linear |
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Relational Climate
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Emotional tone of an episode or relationship-determined by how valued people see themselves- a good climate = supoortive relationship
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Confirming Climates
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*have messages that: - acknowledge person- provide an authentic response- focus on listening- any behavior that causes another person to value themself more
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Disconfirming Climate
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*have messages characterized by:-Impervious responses (ignoring)- Interrupting responses (break in)- Tangential responses (go off topic)- impersonal responses (disengagement)- Disagreement focusing on person (rather than ideas)
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Interpersonal Communication
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-involves 2 ppl- Quality + intimacy of the comm is key issue- more immediate- Quality of feedback is high- fully transactional- proximity is key- Dialectics: predictability and spontaneity
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High Quality Relationships
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-info about other person primarily psychological - dyad sets rules for relationship- roles are defined primarily by primary characteristics rather than situation-emphasis is on individual choices, not group choices
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